criticism

Jul. 10th, 2009 02:47 pm
will
More "I've been pondering, so I thought I'd see what LJ has to say":

Offering criticism is tough work, and can be very vulnerable-feeling. How can I make it feel safe for you to give me critical feedback? How do you try to make this safe for others, and how do folks you admire seem to do it? How do you balance this, moreover, with the fact that there are people whose feedback simply doesn't mean much to you?
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I've been revising my interests list, and I suspect I'm taking too much pleasure in it for it to be useful rather than self-absorbed wankery. I'm a mite too gleeful, perhaps, about strings such as, "self-education, self-realization, self-reliance, selfishness." (Maybe what I should do is just toss "self-absorption" into that list! Heh.)

So, this post makes sure I know exactly which side of that line I'm on, by indulging myself still further and asking... if you see anything I've missed, what is it?
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Hallo, internets! Do you have pruning skills that weren't gained through years of trial and error? Where did you get these skills, then?

(I think I have a half-decent eye for continuing the pruning pattern in fruit trees which have seen regular professional maintenance. Trees and shrubs which have gotten decidedly overgrown, or which haven't had a history of professional pruning, are much trickier. How do you even get in there to see the trunk and basic structure? I didn't do anything too terrible to the yew hedge I was poking at last night, but I was operating purely on guesswork, and I'd like to change that. Well, and it didn't help to be pruning in the dark; in the light of day I could see some places where I'd like to thin the growth and open them up a little.)
will
As I left the house this morning, I saw that my scarlet runner beans are finally beginning to pop up. What gorgeous seedlings! I should try to remember to get a photo. They have a purplish cast to them, and fine veins already visible on the tiny tightly packed leaves.
will
As I left the house this morning, I saw that my scarlet runner beans are finally beginning to pop up. What gorgeous seedlings! I should try to remember to get a photo. They have a purplish cast to them, and fine veins already visible on the tiny tightly packed leaves.
will
I seem to be more attractive on days when I'm actively engaged in sorcery- people respond to me differently, anyhow.
will
I seem to be more attractive on days when I'm actively engaged in sorcery- people respond to me differently, anyhow.
will
I'm insufficiently motivated to swap to Dreamwidth if it will put a damper on discussions because folks are less likely to comment if they have to use OpenID. That looks to be the case at present. Splitting comments is unacceptable to me for the same reason: I am intent on herding all commenters into the same room and poking them until they interact.

So, I could post on Dreamwidth and have it copied over to LJ, but enable comments only on LJ (thus reading and posting on two different sites... suboptimal!); or I could periodically import my LJ posts and comments to Dreamwidth in order to have a full backup and switch smoothly if that decision ever makes sense (but what happens when you import a newer edition of your journal over an older one, anyhow? anyone know?); or I could delete the content that's currently here and basically park the username and the style I have set up. Or I could do some entirely different thing which is better than the not very appealing options I've mentioned: what is it?
will
I'm insufficiently motivated to swap to Dreamwidth if it will put a damper on discussions because folks are less likely to comment if they have to use OpenID. That looks to be the case at present. Splitting comments is unacceptable to me for the same reason: I am intent on herding all commenters into the same room and poking them until they interact.

So, I could post on Dreamwidth and have it copied over to LJ, but enable comments only on LJ (thus reading and posting on two different sites... suboptimal!); or I could periodically import my LJ posts and comments to Dreamwidth in order to have a full backup and switch smoothly if that decision ever makes sense (but what happens when you import a newer edition of your journal over an older one, anyhow? anyone know?); or I could delete the content that's currently here and basically park the username and the style I have set up. Or I could do some entirely different thing which is better than the not very appealing options I've mentioned: what is it?
will
Am I the only one who really doesn't want a user icon to appear more than once on my journal? Hmm. Do I really have to get in the habit of using several icons, to avoid repetition? (Yes, I'm an odd duck on this point.)

I realize most folks will never really notice, because you'll be reading entries on your reading page instead, but...

In other news, my color scheme is actually much more goff than you can even guess. Heh. Oops.
will
I've gotten rid of the orange here, and can now tolerate the layout... but haven't added icons yet, because I'm uncertain what I want- and uncertain whether it's important to me that my icons (or icon; I only tend to use one on livejournal) match my layout colors well.

Dreamwidth

May. 4th, 2009 10:28 am
will
Okay, yes, I'm trying this out as well. The big question, of course: if you are a someone who comments on my livejournal entries, are you less likely to click over and comment on dreamwidth instead? I'm going to leave comments open in both places for this post; feel free to try it out before answering that.

Edit: I should maybe add a link in the lj version of this entry, so you can actually go easily to the dreamwidth version! Oops. This post is also at http://najalaise.dreamwidth.org/173975.html?mode=reply

Dreamwidth

May. 4th, 2009 10:28 am
will
Okay, yes, I'm trying this out as well. The big question, of course: if you are a someone who comments on my livejournal entries, are you less likely to click over and comment on dreamwidth instead? I'm going to leave comments open in both places for this post; feel free to try it out before answering that.
will
Sometimes my desires to hurt people are specific to male-bodied or female-bodied people. Okay, yes, this makes sense- perhaps I want to do certain things to certain parts of the anatomy, or maybe it's an aesthetic thing. There are, after all, grey areas between what I find aesthetically pleasing and what I find arousing, and it can be hard to say exactly why some things are appealing.

But sometimes my desires to hurt people are specific to a gender or range of genders. What am I on about there? I am not very clear on this. There seems to be a difference in my head between daydreams of inflicting pain on masculine people and daydreams of inflicting pain on feminine people. My approach may even be different, at least internally. What am I on about?



In totally unrelated news, if you are a masculine person who enjoys other masculine people, Najalaises, and pain, you might should let me know.
will
Crazy survivalists in the audience, do you prioritize specialization or redundancy?

Alice and I were pondering earlier whether, if one is planning a nutty little compound, it's better to emphasize skill level- and therefore divide important skills in order to have someone who is quite good at whatever you've named crucial- or better to make sure each person has all the Absolutely Vital skills- and therefore make teamwork more viable, and make each person a more autonomous unit. I think my ideal is to make sure everybody is exposed to the core concepts, gets a little bit of practice, and has documentation on each of the Absolutely Vital things... but have experts emerge in each area. It seems important to ensure that, should someone need to, they'd be able to pick up a skill or task relatively smoothly.
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backstory )
me: am i round-dimpled, seedy, and less meaty or am i oval-dimpled, meaty, and less seedy?
Phil: good question!
me: is it "meat" as in "the meat of the argument" and what makes someone substantial, or does it signify the temporariness of the flesh while seeds are potential for the future?
is meat Works and seeds Faith?
what's the significance of round vs. oval?


Help me decide what my Eggplant Gender is!
will
When you decide to stop doing something that you really like, how do you make yourself stop with the grumbling?

I had thought of myself as moderately cautious with breathplay: willing to have it done to me, or, to a somewhat lesser degree, to do it to others, and therefore not cautious by the standards of those who warn loudly against it... but not putting anyone close to loss of consciousness or doing any of the other horrifying things which I read of folks doing. Then, a few weeks back, I wound up with petechial hemorrhaging. That prompted me to look again at the available information about risks. After reading about scarcely-noticeable minor brain damage and memory loss, I decided that I could not be as certain as I'd hoped about how careful I was being, and that gradual brain damage is not an acceptable risk. I am confident that this is the right decision for me, but I still have a "that's not fair; what fun thing do I get instead?" whine.

What fun new kink should I try?
will
I was thinking that I should get a little calendar book to log planting dates, harvests, and so forth, so that I'll have records in order to adjust my tactics where needed. It occurs to me, though, that if I posted all that here and tagged it thoroughly, it'd be easy to look up information, my records wouldn't be subject to the weaknesses of paper, I might get handy feedback, and it's possible that it'd be useful to someone. I'd put all but the shortest entries behind cuts, I think.

Would it be pleasant or useful to you to have access to my gardening notes? Do you see drawbacks or excellent features of this approach?

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